3 Keys to a “conscious” Journey to Motherhood
It’s been quite a hectic time in my house, apparently mercury is on retrograde and I’m going through an emotional rollercoaster as well as packing up to go on our winter family holiday to Fiji.. It’s going to be interesting with a 3.5 yr old and a 9 month old baby.. Why did I put myself through this?? Well the thought of getting some sunshine, pools and quality family time with limited internet sounded really good 3 months ago when we booked.
In the midst of this madness I found myself having a crappy night sleep and to top it all up, had both my kids waking up several times, and I Lost it.. I screamed and yell at 12:29am, I had a crying baby and a crying toddler and a husband that yelled at me trying to get me to come back to my senses! Sounds like the perfect family to me, doesn’t it?
The following day I decided I’m going to regroup myself and looked inside of me for answers, I took 10 deep breaths and decided to set my intention for the day, I gave myself the opportunity to move forward and consciously focus on the positives, how can I make this a better day? Was the question I asked to my inner guidance!
And looking deep inside of me these were the things that were clearly revealed to me that I had to focus on and I had to share with you.
1) Let go of guilt – We ALL make mistakes! Don’t beat yourself over it. We need to let go of that martyrdom paradigm that’s been ingrained in our souls. Accept you made a mistake, acknowledge it, apologise but don’t dwell on it. Keep reminding yourself of the positives things you are, the things you do. Because what we focus on grows!
2) Set your intentions for the week (and every day) – we tend to live in autopilot when it comes to our personal life! At work we normally set targets and goals that we want to achieve, KPIs to meet, meetings to attend, etc. but sometimes most of us go and live our personal life in autopilot. If you set how you want to feel this week, send some energy to the universe that you are willing to accept beautiful things, get your positive radar on.
Take some time to write down what you have to do and include things you WANT to do. Include some self-care for you, include your fitness goals! You need to write it down and schedule it in. It may not go to plan because that’s life but at least you have the right frame of mind to go through your week, not like a zombie but living in purpose.
3) Listen to your inner guidance – Living in the present world is fantastic, all the technology available allows you to communicate with more people than ever before, even if your family is far away you can still have a sense of connection with them. But at the same time we have been more bombarded than ever before with information, there’s people advocating their methods left, right and centre. Which makes you start questioning. Should I do this? Should my baby be doing this at this age? Am I a good mother because I’m not following these rules? All this can make even the more experienced of mothers feel overwhelmed and it could even spiral down into anxiety, depression, etc. We need to dig deeper, listen with alert ears to the advice given and touch basis within our soul! if it is something we feel it fits with our lifestyle, our values, our beliefs. If it feels expansive then go for it. If it doesn’t then graciously and with gratitude let it go and ignore it.
It is amazing when we connect and listen to our inner mother, by no way it means we are perfect and we won’t struggle but it just gives you that push to get you out of overwhelm and move forward to greater happiness.
To a happy and loving motherhood journey!
With lots of LOVE